This chapter describes a methodology for resolving conflict in a collaborative manner, but does not refer to Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative Problem Solving approach, as first described in his book
. For more information on Dr. Greene's Collaborative Problem Solving approach, visit the website of his non-profit organization, Lives in the Balance at
http://www.livesinthebalance.org.
Section 5:
COLLABORATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING:
STEPS IN THE PROCESS
IN THIS SECTION YOU WILL FIND:
COLLABORATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING VS. BEING POSITIONAL
THOUGHTS ABOUT PREPARATION
Figure Out Your Interests
Figure Out Their Interests
Consider Some Options
Whatís a Fair Standard?
Keep an Open Mind
STEPS IN THE COLLABORATIVE PROCESS
SHARE PERSPECTIVES
Perception
Emotions
DEFINE THE ISSUES
Setting the Agenda for Discussion
IDENTIFY THE INTERESTS
Finding the Common Ground of Shared
Interests
Look for Powerful Interests
GENERATE OPTIONS
Brainstorming
DECIDE ON OBJECTIVE CRITERIA
EVALUATE OPTIONS AND REACH AGREEMENT
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COLLABORATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING VS.
BEING POSITIONAL
All of us are involved in some kind of problem solving everyday,
both in our personal and professional lives. In our families and our
work environments we are faced with a multitude of issues that
require making decisions made with others.
Some of these decisions are small and do not have a long term
impact on our lives. Examples of these might be where we will go to
dinner tonight, what program we will watch on television, or what
movie we will see.
Other decisions are significant and require substantial
consideration because of the potential impact they will have, both
on our lives and our relationships with others. Examples of these
might be whether we should sell our house and move, should we send
our child to a private school, is it time for a nursing home for an
aging parent.
Unless we live in total isolation, we are, by necessity, involved
with problem solving and negotiating with others at some level as a
regular part of our lives.
In their book, Getting to Yes, Roger Fisher and William
Ury define negotiation as follows:
"Negotiation is a basic means of getting what you want from
others.
It is back-and-forth communication designed to reach agreement when you and the other side have some
interests that are shared and
others that are opposed."
In spite of the fact that we frequently engage in negotiation,
for many of us, our repertoire of negotiating skills is limited. Out
of habit and lack of knowledge about alternative strategies we try
to solve problems by stating, and sticking to, our position. In a
conflict, one side states what they want ("I want my second
grader to be in the third grade for math") and the other side
states their position ("Your child needs to stay in the second
grade for math"). Each side takes turns (sometimes
democratically, sometimes not), restating their beliefs and opinions
and becoming more and more entrenched in their own position, which
they see as the only acceptable solution to the problem as they
perceive it. The goal becomes trying to convince the other side of
the rightness of their position.
When we insist on our position as a way to solve the problem, in
order for one party to be satisfied with the outcome, the other
party must be dissatisfied. One party must ëgive upí their
position in order to reach agreement. Reaching an agreement depends
on who can be the most powerful, the most persuasive, and/or the
most willing to endure until ëthe bitter endí. If neither party
is willing to ëback downí, the problem solving process may
become stalled with no agreement being reached at all. This type of
"positional bargaining" is limited in its effectiveness in
the following ways:
1. It can be inefficient. Haggling, attempting to
convince, and resorting to tactics such as stonewalling or holding
out often result in multiple meetings which invariably extend over a
long period of time. This not only creates a stressful situation for
the participants, but may have a negative impact on a childís
education because while this inefficient problem solving is going
on, the child may not be receiving important services and support.
2. It can produce unwise agreements. When we bargain from
two positions - yours and mine - we are essentially considering only
two possible solutions to a problem. By putting our efforts into
trying to convince the other side of our solution, we forfeit the
opportunity to consider other possibilities that may meet our needs
and be more satisfying for everyone.
3. It can be hard on the relationship. This type of
problem solving creates stress, anger and resentment for all
participants. Bitter feelings may impact future problem solving
efforts and may have a detrimental impact on a childís program as
well as his attitude towards his school experience.
A Position Is one solution to a problem
Problem Solving from Positions is Limited
Because:
It can be inefficient
It can produce unwise agreements
It can be hard on the relationship
In this section, we present a model for collaborative problem
solving based on the work of Roger Fisher, William Ury, and others.
In collaborative problem solving, parties work side by side to solve
the problem together. Rather than negotiating from opposing
positions, the parties, through a number of different techniques
which we will describe, identify problems in terms of INTERESTS.
Working with interests is a key concept in collaborative problem
solving. An interest is the underlying need or concern that a party
is trying to have satisfied. It is the thing that is motivating
someone to seek a solution. A statement that describes one possible
solution to meet that need or concern is a position. When we go
beyond the position to uncover the needs and concerns, we create an
opportunity to explore a variety of options or possible solutions
that we may not have previously considered. By ëexpanding the pieí
in this manner, we are able to move beyond agreements which are
marginally sufficient to agreements that maximize solutions, meet
more of everyoneís needs and are ëwin-winí rather than ëwin-loseí.
This process has the potential to create greater satisfaction with
agreements and build positive working relationships.
The
advantages of working collaboratively to solve problems:
Working with interests often results in the identification of
more possible solutions than were originally considered;
By "expanding the pie", we end up with fair
agreements that potentially meet more of our needs and are
"win-win" rather than "win-lose";
Creates greater satisfaction for all of the parties and
promotes a foundation for future problem solving that is
respectful and energizing rather than negative and depleting.
THOUGHTS ABOUT PREPARATION
Whether you are a parent or a teacher, advance preparation is an
important, though often ignored aspect of collaborative problem
solving. Our lives are already incredibly busy.
For everyone who works in a school system, each day is filled
with an agenda impossibly long to get through in the allotted eight
hours. There are student contact time and supervisory
responsibilities such as recess and lunchroom. The short breaks
throughout the day are devoted to calling parents, meeting with a
specialist, last minute planning for schedule changes, or meeting
individually with a needy student. After school there are staff
meetings, grade level meetings, parent meetings and if youíre lucky, time to plan for the next day or correct some papers. Then
add a challenging IEP meeting which requires extra effort, thought,
communication, thinking, and information gathering.
A parentís reality may include juggling a full-time job or
perhaps two part-time ones, grocery shopping, meal preparation,
laundry, and general household maintenance. Add in shuttling
children to afterschool activities or retrieving them from daycare
and managing a schedule to provide the structure, supervision and
support for a child with significant disabilities. There may be
expectations or requests to fill in for another employee at work, or
finding someone to fill in for you because you have a sick child. Or
perhaps the daycare provider is ill and you need to find alternate
care. If you are a single parent or are the one primarily
responsible for "keeping it all together", add an
additional dose of stress.
It is no wonder that carving out the necessary time PRIOR to an
important meeting to address the needs of a child seems like an
impossible task for all of the individual participants. Often ëpreparationí
may be limited to figuring out your position and what youíll
"settle" for.
Preparing for a successful collaborative problem solving session
requires addressing a number of different areas.
Figure Out Your Interests
As we stated earlier, your position represents your solution to a
problem. Interests are the underlying need, want, or desire that we
are trying to satisfy with our position (solution).
In Order to Understand Your Interests
Ask Yourself
What is this going to satisfy?
What need will be met if I were to have this?
Why do I want this?
People generally have more than one interest (we will go into
this more in depth) - make a list of
yours, then spend some time prioritizing them. Which are
the most important? Which are somewhat important? Is there some
that you could more easily forego?
For example, if your position is I want my child to have
a one-on-one instructional
assistant, your interests might be:
I want my child to be physically safe;
I want her to have the best possible learning environment;
I want one person who will be able to bond and be available for
her;
I want her to be with peers so she can develop interpersonal
skills;
I want the peace of mind knowing that she is well cared for at
all times.
Are some of these more important to you than others? Are some so
critical that you wouldnít be able to come to agreement unless
they were satisfied?
Figure Out Their Interests
Remember that collaborative problem solving is all about trying
to satisfy the interests of ALL parties involved. Therefore, it is
important to spend some time considering what the other sideís
interests might be.
In Order to Understand Their Interests
Ask yourself, "If I was wanting that, what need(s) would I
be trying to satisfy? What do they really want?"
Attempt to understand the issues from their perspective ‚ how
do they see the situation and why?
Make a list of what you think their interests are. Look for the
common ground or shared interests. Using the situation above, if the
schoolís position is: Your childís needs can be met
without a one-on-one aide, you might identify the schoolís
interests as:
We want to spend as little money as possible while providing a
quality program.
We can provide an appropriate educational program for the child
using the services of the resource room teacher and other
paraprofessionals who are already in the building;
We want the child to be physically safe;
We want to encourage the childís independence and ability to
bond with a variety of helping adults;
We want the child to learn appropriate social skills;
We want to avoid setting a precedent by providing a one-to-one
aide.
Consider Some Options
Now that youíve got lists of interests, think about some
creative ways of meeting as many of these interests as you can. You
have an opportunity to create options that will meet your shared
needs. Think, also, about possibilities that could create value by
ëexpanding the pieí and meeting additional needs. Search for
options that will benefit all parties.
Whatís a Fair Standard?
Inevitably, there will be some interests that are shared and some
interests that are not. In coming up with an agreement our goal
should be to find ways to try and meet the needs of as many
interests as possible. This may seem challenging, particularly when
some of the interests arenít shared by both parties or are
opposites. For example, a parent may want the ëCadillací
educational model, and the school district may want the ëChevroletí
educational model. How will you reach agreement? One way to
determine acceptable solutions is to decide on a fair, objective
standard against which the solutions can be measured. The standard
may be a selection of the most important interests, or it may be
some other standard agreed upon by the participants.
Keep an Open Mind
Now that youíve done the preparation - identified your
interests and theirs, considered options, and a fair standard. - you
are prepared for a collaborative problem solving meeting. The most
important thing you can bring to this meeting, along with your
preparedness, is your open mind. As you gain more information and
insight about their interests (and maybe about yours), allow
yourself to be flexible, capable of considering new ideas and
revising your thinking. Though it is important to have a sense of
where you are going, getting there requires flexibility and
realizing that working collaboratively will generally get you
farther along the road than working from an adversarial position.

Preparing for Collaborative Problem Solving
1. Figure Out Your Interests
2. Figure Out Their Interests
3. Think of Some Options That Would Meet the Interests
4. Consider What a Fair Standard Might Be
5. Keep an Open Mind
STEPS IN THE COLLABORATIVE PROCESS
As we develop our skills in problem solving, we will find that
collaborative problem solving is not a linear process that proceeds
methodically through prescribed steps. Identifying all of the
interests of the parties must be accomplished before generating
options. However, in order to do this effectively, we may need to
move back and forth through the first steps, i.e., sharing
information, defining issues, sharing more information, etc. in
order to develop a clear picture of the interests. Reaching
agreement often proceeds in a series of baby steps. Oneís best ënext
stepí is the step that will take us most effectively in that
direction.
A Model for Collaborative Problem
Solving
1. Share Perspectives
* Use our communication skills to understand the otherís
perception of the situation, their needs, and
desires
2. Define the Issues
* Clarify the topics for discussion
3. Identify the Interests
* Go beyond the stated positions or solutions to figure out
what the parties really need to have satisfied in
order to reach agreement
* Look for the common ground between all parties
4. Generate Options
* Brainstorm and generate ideas, looking at the problem from
all angles and considering as many different ideas as
possible
5. Develop a Fair Standard or Objective Criteria for
Deciding
* Using an agreed upon criteria, combine and reduce options
* Strive to "expand the pie" and create agreements for
mutual gain.
6. Evaluate Options and Reach Agreement
SHARE PERSPECTIVES
The parties have done their preparation, are seated at the
meeting, and ready to share their perspectives on the situation.
Perspective sharing establishes the groundwork for constructive
problem solving. It provides an opportunity for people to share what
is important to them and what they see as relevant to the situation
at hand, both in terms of their perception of the facts and their
feelings.
Perception
The process of perspective sharing allows each party to gain a
clear understanding of the otherís PERCEPTION of the problem
situation, for this is at the heart of collaborative problem
solving. As Fisher and Ury write in Getting to Yes,
"As useful as looking for objective reality can be, it is
ultimately the reality
as each side sees it that constitutes the problem in a
negotiation and opens the way to a solution."
Too often we focus on uncovering more data, facts, and objective
information in an effort to reveal the ëtruthí and convince the
other side to see things as we do. Parties may actually agree on the
objective data, but it is their differences in how they PERCEIVE the
data that causes the conflict.
Seeking to understand how the other side sees the situation may
not only help us see potential solutions that will meet many of our
needs, but may also allow us to revise how WE see the problem.
Consequently, the area of conflict may actually be reduced.

Perception is . . .
Our interpretation of our world and our experiences
Impacted by our values, beliefs, fears, and desires
Unique to everyone
Understanding Perception Is Important Because
. .
It is the differences in peopleís perceptions that cause
conflict
Understanding how people perceive themselves and the world around
them is the key to understanding their behavior
Understanding peopleís perceptions will help open ways to
finding solutions.
We can help others tell their stories by using effective
communication and reflective listening skills to draw out all
aspects of the situation as they perceive it. Through this process
of sharing perspectives, we are able to begin identifying the issues
that will need to be addressed.
Use Communication and Reflective Listening Skills
to
Help Others Share Their Stories
Tell me more about . . .
How did you experience it when . . .
What was your reaction to . . .
Help me understand your feelings about . .
When did this happen?
These seem to be the key ideas you have expressed . .
I appreciate your willingness to resolve this matter . .
Am I understanding you correctly when I say . .
I hear you saying _______ - is that accurate?
It sounds like . . .
What happened when . . .
It sounds like these are the important issues for you . .
Is it accurate to say that your priorities are . . .
Is there something you feel I donít understand?
Emotions
There are two aspects to a conflict: substance and emotions.
Until the emotional aspects of a conflict are resolved, it is
usually difficult to address the substantive ones.
During perspective sharing, parties may need a chance to vent
their emotions. When feelings have been acknowledged and accepted,
the emotional intensity often subsides and problem solving about the
substantive issues can proceed.
If there are particularly strong feelings that are relevant to
the issue, it may be necessary to go beyond acknowledgment and have
an honest, forthright conversation about the emotional aspect of the
problem situation. With a reduction in the emotional intensity, it
becomes easier to focus on the issues and interests.
Information To Be Shared May Include:
Objective, observable information that is significant or
important to the parties and the situation;
Peopleís reactions, emotions, and feelings;
Peopleís assumptions, beliefs, hopes, fears, and perceptions
about themselves and the "other side";
What people need in order to feel better about the situation.
DEFINE THE ISSUES
As perspectives are shared and clarifying and summarizing
questions are asked, the issues or subjects for discussion and
problem solving for both parties become identified. An issue may be
defined as an element of the dispute that represents a partyís
need or interest. In the previous example of a parent who wanted his
second grade child to receive math instruction in the third grade,
the issue could be defined as ëmath programí.
In many disputes (and special education disputes are certainly no
exception), there has been a long history of conflict, intense
emotion, and ineffective communication between the parties.
Distilling the issues out of an excess of information can be a
difficult task and requires frequent summarizing and checking for
understanding. There are many ways to characterize or describe
issues. Complex disputes may require issue ëcategoriesí such as
behavioral, instructional, supervision, etc. Within those broad
categories there may be a number of smaller issues that can be
identified. For example, if the broad issue is supervision, you may
need to address recess, lunchroom, and the classroom as separate
issues.

How an issue is described or ëframedí is important because it
can have an impact on the ensuing discussion. Framing issues in
neutral language that does not reflect the perceptions of either
party will set the stage for productive discussions. For example, in
a dispute where parents are angry that their child is not receiving
her medication consistently at school, a neutral ëframeí for the
issue would be ëSueís medicationí rather than ëSue does not
receive her medicationí.
An ISSUE
Is an element of the dispute that represents the partyís need
or interest
Can be framed or described in neutral terms, so that
collaborative discussion and problem solving are encouraged.
Setting the Agenda for Discussion
It is helpful in organizing an agenda for discussion, to list the
issues and have some discussion about the best place to begin. There
are a variety of ways to structure a discussion. Experience shows
that "agreement begets agreement" so it is often desirable
to begin with the easier issues that can be resolved quickly. The
parties then have the positive experience of reaching agreement that
can build momentum and the feeling of success.
IDENTIFY THE INTERESTS
Once the issues have been framed, the parties are ready to figure
out the interests that they need to have satisfied in order to reach
agreement. Recall that an interest is a partyís concern, need,
desire or goal behind a position. It is what an individual wants to
have satisfied - it expresses why the party cares. Interests provide
the motivation for people to seek solutions.
An INTEREST
Is a personís concern, desire or goal behind a position
Is the underlying need that must be met if agreement is to be
reached
Is often confused with a position or solution
Usually requires clarifying because it is not always immediately
evident
Provides the motivation to seek solutions.
As previously stated, people usually come to a discussion with a
position or solution about a problem. We often confuse our position
which is usually narrowly focused (someone needs to bring Susieís
medication to her at 11 a.m.) with our need or interest (Susie needs
to take medication consistently). When we are able to discover our
underlying interests, we are able to move away from our positions
and consider other options for meeting our needs. There is almost
always more than one solution that will satisfy any interest.
Also, by focusing on what it is that we really need to have
satisfied, we may find that the other party shares some of our
interests - it just wasnít obvious when we looked at the
positions.

Why Work With Interests Instead of Positions
1. Generally, behind every interest there is more than one
solution that will satisfy it.
2. In identifying underlying interests, we may be able to uncover
more shared interests between the parties
than conflicting ones.
3. Shared interests are not obvious when working with opposing
positions.
Though it is clear that working with interests makes sense and is
more productive than working with positions, it is not always easy
to get at them. After all, positions are usually concrete and
expressed where interests are intangible and unexpressed. Most
people are unsure about what their real interests are and they need
help in clarifying them. You can begin by asking questions when a
position is expressed:
Questions to Ask to Get At Underlying Interests
Why is that important to you?
What would you experience if you had that?
What changes would that solution make?
What would that mean to you?
How will you benefit from that?
Whatís your basic concern in wanting that?
If a position is expressed in negative terms ("I donít
want Jill in my classroom in the morning"), ask the following
questions:
Why donít you want that?
What problems do you see with that?
How is that a problem?
What bothers you most about that?
Finding the Common Ground of Shared Interests
On any issue, most people have multiple interests. Some of those
interests will be unique to them, others may differ from the other
partyís. Still, both parties will share some interests. Consider
the example on page 5-6.
The stated parent position is I want my child to have a
one-on-one instructional assistant. The stated school
position is Your childís needs can be met without a
one-on-one instructional assistant.
A look at the list of interests of the parties reveals a number
of shared interests:
Both parties want the child to be physically safe;
Both parties want the child to be able to have a close, bonded
relationship with adults;
Both parties want the child to develop social skills with
peers;
Both parties want the child to have an appropriate learning
environment that will meet her needs.
These shared interests or common ground, not immediately apparent
when we first looked at the positions, lay the foundation for a
constructive agreement. And often, when shared interests are
identified, dealing with the opposing interests appears more
manageable.
Look For Powerful Interests

In the process of identifying interests, look for what Fisher and
Ury call the "bedrock concerns which motivate all people".
These are basic human needs and include:
Security
Economic well-being
A sense of belonging
Recognition
Control over oneís life
GENERATE OPTIONS
By this stage in the process, parties have had an opportunity to
share, listen and develop an understanding of their interests as
well as the interests of the other side. They have moved from an
adversarial, entrenched posture to a problem solving, interest-based
mode and are ready to brainstorm potential options and solutions.
Brainstorming
The goal of brainstorming is to generate as many ideas and
options as possible. Most of us are not accustomed to inventing
options and we slip easily into critiquing and judging as soon as
possibilities are put on the board. This curtails the flow of ideas,
peopleís willingness to take risks, and suppresses creativity.
Therefore it is wise before beginning with this step, to establish
ground rules for brainstorming. People need to be reminded that this
is not the time for deciding - it is the time for inventing and
discussing.
Rules of Brainstorming
1. Make No Criticism: judging is not allowed.
2. Be Free-wheeling: use your creativity and imagination,
take risks.
3. Go for Quantity: the more and varied the ideas the better.
Avoid thinking in terms of a single answer.
4. Combine and Expand: modify and build on otherís ideas.
People are accustomed to searching for the one answer to a
problem and often maintain a mindset that if one party wins, the
other one loses. During the brainstorming process, record ideas on
large pieces of newsprint so everyone has
a clear view - this helps stimulate ideas and helps maintain a
collaborative atmosphere by focusing everyone together.
Guidelines for generating options:
Allow time for people to ëwarm upí and get comfortable with
the creative process.
Encourage looking at the problem from all angles.
Encourage dovetailing, piggybacking, combining and revising
ideas.
Look for ideas with mutual gain.
DECIDE ON OBJECTIVE CRITERIA
Once the brainstorming has taken place, the parties need to
decide on the criteria against which the options will be evaluated.
Without an objective standard or criteria, the decision process may
end up as a contest of wills. An objective criteria allows everyone
to focus on solutions and standards rather than on defending a
particular option. It also allows people to be able to change their
minds without ëlosing faceí. By bringing in an agreed upon
standard, you increase the likelihood that the resulting agreement
will be mutually fair, just and in the best interests of the child.

The criteria may be as simple as your listed interests. It may
have more than one component. The criteria may include any standards
(budgetary, legal, scientific, procedural, etc.) upon which the
parties agree.
Why Use Objective Criteria?
1. It protects the relationship from a contest of wills;
2. Allows the parties to use the time more effectively, focusing
rather on standards and solutions rather than on
defending their positions;
3. Enables parties to alter their perceptions without ëlosing
faceí;
4. Enables parties to strive toward mutual fairness and decisions
that are in the best interest of the
child.
5. Creates agreements that are fair and wise.
Objective Criteria
may:
1. Be as simple as your collective interests;
2. Include budgetary standards, legal standards, scientific
merit, procedural guidelines, etc.
EVALUATE OPTIONS AND REACH AGREEMENT
With a comprehensive list of brainstormed ideas and a mutually
agreeable objective criteria, you are ready to evaluate the options
and move toward creating agreements that will meet as many of your
collective needs and interests as possible.
Depending on the length of the list of ideas, it may be necessary
to use some techniques to narrow the field.
Techniques for Narrowing the Field of Options
Thumbs Up/Thumbs Down
This method provides a general sense of the partiesí views on
any particular item. Using the objective criteria, the parties go
through the list of items and give a thumbs up, thumbs down, or
thumbs neutral sign. Some items will obviously not meet the
objective standard and can be eliminated with unanimous thumbs down.
Using Stars
Star the items that the group thinks are best.
Can any of the favored options be reworked to
create even better options?
Combining Items for Mutual Gain
Some items may partially meet the objective criteria. Can some of
these ideas be combined to create agreements for mutual gain? Can
they be combined to actually meet more of the parties needs and
interests, thereby expanding the total pie?
Throughout the process, participants need to continually refer
back to the identified interests and the objective criteria to make
sure they are meeting as many of their collective interests as
possible. Always be asking the question, "Is this the best we
can do?"
When an agreement is reached, ask the question, "Is this the
best job we can do? Is there room for improvement? Do we have a
maximized solution or one that is marginally acceptable?"